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Prepping for Baby

Prepping for Baby

With all of the wonderful chaos that goes along with prepping to become first-time parents, I wouldn’t change it for anything. It’s the very reason why this blog has been so neglected, and while I had every intention to document my pregnancy journey, some things I’m happy to keep private. I mean really, no one needs to be filled in on how I was hung over the toilet for what seemed like a lifetime during my entire first trimester (technically it was morning sickness…but I also had mid-afternoon and late at night sickness so whatever you want to call it) it sucked. But I know that in the end, all of the aches and pains, gaining a ridiculous amount of weight, sleepless nights, hormonal rages….will all be worth it when I get to finally look my tiny little baby girl in the face. In just two weeks.

Sometimes I feel like prepping for our little one to arrive isn’t half as stressful as other people who love to give their advice. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m all about hearing what parents have to say and what’s worked for them when things got rough, but it’s all about the approach. I feel like every parent has their own style when it comes to raising their kids and I feel like there are some things that I know will not fly with my husband and I. Some parents are just…okay a little batshit crazy.

Then you get into “oh what is your birth plan?” I can tell you now, no essential oil offering or meditation playlist would be able to substitute what an epidural can give me. SIGN ME UP. For the women who want to endure that pain, more power to you. If I have the option to NOT be in as much pain, why not? I think of it as, would you choose to have surgery without anesthesia and feel your insides being torn apart? Nope. No thanks. This of course is a hot topic among many. I’ve learned to respect other opinions, although in turn it’s important to reciprocate. It’s sad when people expect you to respect their opinions, but continue to disrespect yours. Instead of getting too stressed out, I’ve chosen to avoid the negative vibes as much as possible. In the end, as the parents, we have the final say as to what is best for our baby. Amen? Has anyone else felt pressured into doing/not doing something just because of someone else’s lifestyle or beliefs? It’s been over-the-top and rude. The following are the top 10 most annoying unsolicited opinions/actions:

  1. “OMG you’re getting vaccinated and your baby? You do know that it’s just a money scheme right? It’s totally not necessary”
  2. “You’re getting an epidural?! You could become paralyzed!”
  3. “I really hope you’re breastfeeding, otherwise there’s no way your baby will get the proper nutrients.”
  4. “Wait…you’re still working? (insert judgmental face here)
  5. “You’re only taking 6 weeks off for maternity leave? Won’t you miss your baby? That’s going to be so hard.”
  6. “I hope you’re getting sleep now, because you’ll be miserable once the baby is born.”
  7. “Wow you look SO pregnant today!”
  8. *Just walks up and rubs your belly without asking*
  9. “You must be SO miserable being pregnant during the summer.”
  10. *Insert several birth stories and graphic details here*

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I just can’t. It’s amazing how I’ve kept my hormones in check as much as I have and for this long. I should get a medal. Sorry, but I’m perfectly aware of ALL the possibilities that I might face when it comes to giving birth from a torn vag to possibly getting cut open to hemorrhaging among other scary health issues. Take a pill  (because I can’t) and calm yourself. You’re not helping anyone.

As a mom-to-be it’s things like this that dads don’t really have to put up with or bother with as much. And let me tell you, there are two types of moms: working moms and stay-at-home moms. DRASTIC difference. There are so many challenges that I will be facing being a working mom, but at the end of the day, I will be setting a great example for my baby girl. Will it be hard? No shit it will be. I’m sure I’ll cry the whole way to work while she gets to spend quality time with her Mimi, snacking, and napping like a little peaceful baby should. It’s what’s necessary to give her the best life possible. And because this momma is only going to give her the best. Sacrifices must be made. It will be hard, but nothing worth while ever came easy right? Pretty sure that’s what they say.

I’m now at the 38-week mark and she can come ANY time now. I’m really praying she does. I want to see that cute little face, hold that tiny little hand, and hold her close to me. The nursery is pretty much all set for her arrival too. Luigi is even trying to be patient, but it’s wearing thin. He can’t wait to meet his tiny human.

While I’ll miss feeling her kicks and not having to share her with anyone else, I’m ready to be not pregnant and to sport that mommy title. This will be one hell of an adventure.

Cheers!

Life is Sweet

Life is Sweet

Well how about that, it’s well into 2018 and this is officially my first post of the year. Gym & Tonic has taken a bit of a break…in every way, shape and form. In December in the midst of all the holiday craziness, I found out that my life as I knew it was about to change forever.

Yep, several tests later, (you know just to make sure) those two lines couldn’t have been more clear. I was pregnant. Or you know, when another test just spells it out for you.

The hubs and I have been talking about it for quite a bit and it only took a month of taking zero preventative measures for it to happen. Aside from being the happiest person ever, I feel blessed. Beyond blessed. Real talk, I thought it would take a lot longer or even kind of a challenge since I’ve been on the pill for so long. It was a scary thought. And speaking of scary, I didn’t know if I was even ready to be a mom. But when I found out that I could possibly be pregnant, I couldn’t want anything more. After it was confirmed with my doctor, it’s crazy how much love I felt for that little bean that was showing up on the ultrasound. Shit just got REAL.

So then started the challenge of keeping it from our immediate family until Christmas. We wanted to surprise them with our exciting news on Christmas morning. Not to mention get through all of the holiday craziness without a glass of wine in my hand. We got these custom ornaments for our parents and wrapped them up.

As Christmas approached, I was bursting at the seams to yell our news from the rooftops. Keeping this a secret was one of the hardest things we had to do, but we managed to surprise the crap out of our families and everyone was ELATED. <3 We waited to spread the news to everyone else until later, but now that everyone does know, it’s such a relief! And I love how the tip-off was that I was drinking water and didn’t have a wine glass in my hand at family events. Hey, this girl loves her wine #noshame.

Now I can be that annoying mom-to-be complaining about how I felt like death for the entire first trimester (thanks morning sickness) and how 85% of my wardrobe is already obsolete because the only thing that made me feel like a functioning human being during that time was carbs. All the carbs. Bagels, croissants, toast, you name it…if it was a type of bread, I had it. And the gym? HA! The only exercise move I was doing was squatting over the toilet to dry-heave or vomit. And yet the craziest thing was despite how awful I felt for those many weeks, every time I saw our growing bean on the ultrasound, it was all worth it without a doubt. But seriously, those other moms who didn’t experience morning sickness at all or maybe felt a little off for a couple of weeks…oh how I envy you and I will simply say it’s not fair!!!

Fast forward to the start of my second trimester, this is supposed to be the “honeymoon phase” right? Yeah well that was a big fat lie. If someone so much as sneezes my way, I get sick. BUT cold aside, I do actually feel “normal” and I can start eating like a somewhat normal human being again so I don’t end up gaining 100+ pounds. Yeesh. The struggle. My current cravings:

  • PB&J sandwiches on sourdough
  • Cheeseburgers
  • Cereal (the sugar-filled crap that were staples in every family with kids) i.e. Cinnamon Toast Crunch, Frosted Mini Wheats, Frosted Flakes etc.
  • Anything with cinnamon
  • Orange juice

During my first trimester, I was ALL about the hot chocolate. I couldn’t get enough of it. Sweets in general were my go-to. Now, I need to calm myself and not give in to so many cravings. Or at least try?

Being a soon-to-be parent is stressful, but I’m so happy to have amazing family by my side. We got early testing done that revealed the gender and we’re happy to announce that we’re expecting a baby girl!

Yep, hubs will officially be outnumbered! I don’t know how some couples can wait. I get the whole “I want to be surprised” thing, but this girl is a planner. And I just HAD to know. I was going bonkers knowing the results were in and I couldn’t peak at all until our little gender reveal party. Yes we had a small one, don’t roll your eyes please. I know people think they’re obnoxious, but deal with it. 😀

 

Cheers!